Mental health curriculum with eight lessons specifically focused on preventing and eliminating bullying.
As parents one of the first things we should do is check our own behavior. Are we modeling aggression? How do we show our kids and or tell them how to handle conflict? Talk to your kids early and long before anything ever happens. Discuss bullying and what healthy relationships with respect look like. Recognize that it is not just about conflict. There is power element to bullying. Conflict is where both kids have equal power. Bullying is abuse. In addition, bullies get positive outcomes from mean behavior- such as pleasure, feelings of power and positive confirmation from their friends i.e. popularity although they are disliked
Bullies usually suffer from social emotional problems but NOT that they feel bad about themselves. They are not socially rejected, and the bullying is more of a peer socialization process. We should help them learn to take responsibility for negative actions. Peer influence is crucial. If your group of friends says that pushing and shoving or spitting is OK or spreading lies is OK, even if the student knows better, they will go along with the group. Bullies tend to have more friends. Children who have a social anxiety disorder may exhibit aggressive behavior. They also have a lower quality of life and they may just be trying to cope. They may intentionally take risks, pick fights and use drugs to elevate their social status or alleviate anxiety. They end up with a brief sense of peer control and status which eventually leads to anxiety and depression. Consider games (violent and with foul language), TV shows, avatar games and other programs that display antisocial behavior as normal. These games and programs also support cyber-bullying actions as they provide anonymity. And, they are not usually a one-time communication.
Develop confidence in your child:
What is bullying? The repeated use by one or more students of a written, verbal or electronic expression or a physical act or gesture or a combination there of directed at a victim that causes physical or emotional harm to the victim or damage to the victim’s property. It places the victim in a reasonable fear of harm to himself or to damage of his/her property. It creates a hostile environment in the school for the victim, infringes on his/her rights or materially and substantially disrupts the education process or orderly operation of a school.
What is cyber-bullying? Bullying with the use of technology:
Schools are not able to discipline a student for bullying or cyber-bullying if the actions are taken off of the school premises or outside of school hours under the current laws. Those that have are being criticized that they are exceeding their authority and violating the students’ free speech rights.
There is no federal law yet, but a bill has been introduced which would include a fine and 2 years in prison if found guilty. There is a first amendment right controversy about this at this time. Schools can effectively work with parents to stop/prevent and remedy cyber-bullying or other bullying situations. They can:
The 2tough2bully™ Campaign and Program Includes:
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